Gen 1:27 (ESV) – So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
Ladies, this one may hurt a bit. I’m apologizing in advance.
The Bible says in Genesis 1:27 that we were created in God’s image. Since God has no physical body, this scripture isn’t referring to our bodies, although they are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). The tripartite human includes a spirit, our likeness to God. Our spirit self is the real representation of God in us. Yet everyday women are sacrificing who God has called them to be for who they see. There can’t be THAT many Brandy’s in the world but for some reason everybody wants to be down! It has become so normal for women to sacrifice themselves, their values, and their virtue just to be in a man’s company that the women who don’t are now distasteful obscenities. But women want to be wanted, and so they ignore the danger signs and acquiesce. Imagine how painful it must be for the Creator of the Universe to look upon his daughters and see them sacrificing the God in them just to capture the heart of the man in front of them!
What am I really referring to when I talk about the danger of being down? I am referring to the person ladies pretend to be just to make it appear they have something in common with a man, the changes they make to grab their attention, or compromise of their standards just to be in his company. Let’s talk about it!
- BE AUTHENTICALLY YOU. Some women are so happy a man is talking to them that they will echo anything he says just to establish commonality. You know you don’t really like golf, you know you don’t really like to cook, and you know you don’t really know what he means when he says “nah mean?” Besides the fact that who you are will eventually shine through, it’s appalling that ladies want a man so badly that they’re willing to build a house with a faulty foundation. Ladies, listen up. When the Word of God says our Father is against those who speak deceit and evil (1 Peter 3:10-12), that means the little lies you tell to win over a man too. Lying to win over a person says that you are not really happy with yourself. God gave you a unique set of experiences that shaped who you are but if you are not confident in what you possess, you will desire to possess whatever makes someone approve of you. Perhaps God is not blessing the relationship you’re in or the one you’re trying to build, because you trusted in your act instead of your God. Be who you are, I guarantee there’s someone that will be just fine with her.
- KEEP YOUR ROUTINE. How many of you have taken an extra lap around the track when a cute guy comes in the gym to practice his free throws? How many of you have pretended to just HAPPEN to be in the cafeteria at work at the same time as him? Are you popping tags only to return them just so he can see you in that dress you really can’t afford? Some ladies are willing to go to any length to grab a man’s attention. No one wants to be naturally noticed anymore, they want to do whatever it takes to get noticed NOW. My personal opinion is that organic connections are so much more enjoyable. How comforting to know that God cared about you and the other person enough to put you in each other’s path at the right time and at the right place, not because you schemed to be in someone’s space. I once heard a story about a guy who had a roommate and they needed to go to the store to buy some things for their bathrooms. They’d never been in Bed, Bath and Beyond but they went this particular day in hopes of finding what they needed. The sales associate that helped this guy’s roommate captured his attention so much that he asked her on a date and they got married a couple years later. This young woman didn’t have to wear a skin tight dress and go to this guy’s favorite restaurant at 6:15 to catch him at the bar. She was simply doing her job and he was simply a customer in need of help. God may want to connect you with your future mate through your everyday routine but you keep changing your schedule in hopes of being noticed. Stay on the path God has placed you on (Proverbs 3:5-6), there’s a reason for it.
- WHERE ARE YOU LATE IN THE MIDNIGHT HOUR? Most of us have heard the song that says “late in the midnight hour, God’s going to turn it around.” But how can God turn it around when you’re letting someone else…never mind, I won’t go there. No real man of God who plans to treat you honorably will refuse to take you to lunch at noon but suggest you watch movies in his bed at midnight. He’s not too busy to see you during the day, it doesn’t matter if he wants to drop by after the Choir Competition is over and it ended late, and you don’t wear THAT much makeup at midnight when he asks can you drop off some cold medicine. If you know you don’t need to go to his house at midnight, DON’T GO! Don’t be so desperate for company that you invite in unnecessary temptation. Uphold your standards and trust that voice that says “this isn’t a good idea.” Could you end up just watching movies on the sofa and holding hands? Sure. But your flesh could also get weak and a lot more could happen. If your refusal to be in an environment that’s not conducive to godly dating causes him to lose his interest, is that really the type of person you were looking for anyway?
The point of all of this is that you don’t need to make compromises to get a man’s attention or to finally get “cuffed.” If it took compromise for you to meet and be with the man God has for you then that would be contrary to who God is. He does not require anything of us that isn’t for our good and godly standards won’t keep you from getting a mate. When you’re faced with a decision to compromise your standards and your comfort, the answer is always NO! If you ARE comfortable with doing these things, it’s time to reevaluate yourself (see the previous article of this mini-series “All the Single Ladies…Examine YOU”). You cannot expect to keep compromising, lying, or scheming and expect God to bless what you’re trying to build. God does not bless dysfunction and disobedience! Evaluate yourself and resist the urge to be down at any cost, you may not have enough to pay for it.
Leave me your thoughts; I want to hear from ladies and guys on this one! Men what do you think of women who do these types of things, are they the type of young lady you want to formulate a relationship with? #allthesingleladies